The Pay it forward with the book in Spain

Today was the big day.. This 3 months have been amazing, to have the
Incredible privilege to connect with such superb souls and great entrepreneurs around the globe was such an honour!
When I have seen the opportunity I haven't thought twice, the same day , magically in the flow, everything was up and running!
I love to team up with DOERS, they say yes or no, yet if the commit they are there... And so do I ...
We shared values and priorities, and even from the distance I felt near to them all in my heart.
While writing, creating, translating and promoting the PAY IT FORWARD project was growing so quickly! With in few days I had the 2 extra coordinators , in 2 weeks I received more than 100 private requests of informations, 40 something enrolled in Facebook, 20 something maybe coming, and 1500 still to go!!! I was absolutely overwhelmed to read the comments of the messages I was receiving:
" how great!" "Amazing project... " "I want to be part of it " " I love books and pay it forward! Super" ...
Well, while juggling with the rest of my Outstandingly fulfilling life, I had this vision: more than 60 places... So many books hand out with the "pay it forward" message in it! I had a friend , Solange, very busy working and pregnant, she translated the event into Portuguese, we had it done in Spanish and English, now one more chance to get more people on board...
I privately messaged all the people to answer questions and make sure they knew what was going on ( many people i found most they didn't really understand How it practically work.. Some didn't even read the event untill the end, so here I was, happy happy to be able to serve:)
So, all confirmed, 80% in, 20 didn't answer at all, or simply liked the posts without giving any feed back, so I though I could get that bit by simplifying the process: I think I have managed to do that...
We must have around 100 now, obviously counting with some last minute canx... Yet I was very excited to see that :after so many glamorous events shared, found raising dinners and shows, people around me in this coast had such a big heart and really are compromise to society... Felt proud of this coast! Someone said: " we need this now! With everything that has happened this kind of events in team is what we need to do"....
This person didn't cancel is compromise with the "Pay it forward" mission, didn't answer me and obviously didn't show up!
And watch this: neither the rest!
We where more in my house then in the event! :)
This was a 30 minutes break, a 10 minutes reading... Yet there was no time for it, no time to say something, it wasn't really a compromise because was free, "wasn't it?" .....


My daughter stayed off school from an excursion because she compromised with me first, so I wanted her to decide and she understood it wasn't right to just quit for something better came in...
She was the photographer...
Excited to be part of the 1st globally coordinated Pay it forward-flash mob with the books,
My colleague and special soul Marina was as excited as I was... We couldn't wait to get there and be part of it:) and so we did...
It took me all my strenght, focus and love to change my state...
I remembered why I wanted to do this: because is an outstanding cause, it's a genuine act of kindness and a special inspiration to me and my family..Plus I was the only one in Spain who took the responsibility and I felt so privilege to be able to do it! This was an excellent opportunity to put in practice all that I use to preach in coaching...
So the time arrived, and I have gone and sit down in the middle of the shopping mold.. Next Any, then Marina and after Helen... I am so grateful they stayed:)
Those very special brave souls staid with me,and we all teamed up...
I asked my self if I would have gone for it my self alone , and the answer was: of course I would! One life inspired for the better which is going to inspire more lives, is far better than none, isn't it?
Now this diary is meant to state some facts ( as per some of the answer I had) and share my personal opinion about it:

-we generally don't feel committed to a free event: i believe the compromise should be with our selves and our values, coherent with what we say we like and believe is right to do...to commit our word should be committing enough..

-If many people are involved in an event we tend to believe we will make no difference and that nobody will even care or notice: I believe we are living our life and making a difference at every step we take! We choose if is for the greater good or the less good.. Every action as a consequence and that consequence transforms in cause, then effect, etc...

-we are not ready to receive and to thank: we must learn to give without waiting for any compensation so to believe that somebody else can care enough about us too...
-people that are smiling are generally more receptive to receive and to start with , to give unconditionally..so let's smile more and open up to the good that life as for us..
-we generally have lowered our standards as per our personal word or a simple formal answer to an invitation.. We simply don't take the time to care because we receive so many things in our inbox we must prioritize: we need to understand how much things could change and better if we where to live in a world where "pay it forward" was at the number one of our list....

-we say we want the change, we need it, we like the idea, yet doing it seems to be still far as we believe there is no time for it: time is the same for everyone and I can tell you one thing, we don't get more time, we make it giving up other things...

... I understand I can be too open, too frontal, too emotional, too passionate, too loving, too giving, too idealist, too naïf, too extreme in my believes and maybe also too self secure for someone... Yet I respect you all, I love you all, I am aware and conscientious of the fact that without you I am nothing as we all need each others to make the world going, we need pain and joy, day and night, winter and summers, good and bad... It's all part of one unique frequency that makes us real and alive now...

And for it I know I must be the change I want to be, I don't expect anybody to do it for me, I get involved and take responsibilities, and I put my proud away to start again the time is necessary, that is what I know best: to remember how lucky I am and how much I can give out still..
I only want to be able to team with you and so make it even better and faster!

Those girls with me and my daughter we made the difference there, and this is the last fact I want to state:
It's not how many we where to do it, but did we do it? Yes indeed! The 'doing' bit is what makes the difference... And the consequences of this all are yet to be seen..

THANKS MARINA ANY HELEN AND MAYA!
So shine bright and PAY IT FORWARD

CRITICISE? MY DAUGHTER HAS A THEORY...

Talking with my oldest daughter ( she is 13 now) about critics and school issues with her friends and colleagues, after crying feeling apart and different, she finally got it right for her...
She told me : " mum, if they want to criticise me they will have to bit me!". she decided to choose to lead by example, to choose her love for the vegan lifestyle and the respect for her health, nature and the planet over not bothering and be the same as the rest of her friends, she decided to still love sports over sitting around talking about how bad others are when they have a brake, she decided to choose playfulness and joy over the fear of not being understood and be judged of naïf, she chooses love and forgiveness over fear and regret...
And that made me feel in heaven... In despite of my wish of not seeing her sad and wanting her to be safe... I felt so proud!
I believe the most magical moment for a parent is to know and to see your child being responsible for him self and his emotions, it's a kind of confirmation we are doing a good job.. We struggle some times to make our message come through day after day, month after month, sometime year after year....
How many time you have repeated the same thing in a million of different ways with the aim of giving them a clearer idea of what YOU believed?
I have learned that I must always remember them those are only my Ideas and my believes, the best that I know...and they must have theirs...
As long as they are aware and responsible for what they thing and choose to believe, aware of the consequences and willing to still believe it, I am no body to interfere.
I am not better, only older:)
We want to protect our children from pain and we teach them to close up and not being to kind or loving ...
Yet isn't it the love and the kindness that made us the happiest in our lives? We want to protect them from critics and judgments and we teach them not to bother and to mix up with the rest so nobody will know they think different... Yet weren't the people that thought different the one that made the biggest difference and impact in our lives?
We want to protect them from frustration and impotence so we teach them to avoid frustration and impotence by not facing what they don't know how to do or feel uncomfortable doing...
Yet aren't those moment after the frustration and the impotence that made us who we are and helped us to grow and become stronger?
...So my point is this: less teaching, more educating... To EDUCE is to take out , meaning that we all have it inside already, we only need to trust the perfection of life, and be aware of all we already know in our infinite wisdom. We can help them knowing their rights , come from their heart , give it all ,do their best and open up to enjoy their progresses and be grateful for what was good at one point..so to overcome the pain and transform it into gratitude. We can empower them by letting them know everything we value in them and how incredible they can be so to overcome the critics and judgment and make the difference in their world by leading by example;
we can help them understand we own our feelings and thoughts and by choosing what we think, say and do we can change our reality as we are responsible of all of our emotions, so to overcome frustration and become greater stronger happier been...
It's only my believe, of course, my understanding of life and my appreciation of what makes me and my kids really happy:
to know that we can OVERCOME everything without having to AVOID anything...
At the end of the day... What could we ask more for our kids than for them to be happy and fulfilled most of the time through out their life?

I AM HAPPY BECAUSE I SMILE not smiling because I am happy:)

It's so great to have a laugh, show your teeth and feel absolutely fabulous.
Yet we tend to believe that we smile because we are happy..
We wait to be happy so we can celebrate it with a smile.

What if I tell you that THE OTHER WAY AROUND is so much more fun ?

YES! I have being asked how can I be so lucky and be able to feel happy even under the storm...

Well this is probably one of the master keys:
SMILE FIRST... long enough to make it real:)
THEN FEEL THE HAPPINESS growing inside,
NOW YOU ARE READY TO CELEBRATE WITH AN EVEN BIGGER SMILE!

I do it with my kids and now they hold me to this standard.
There are no 'points' if we don't smile while talking to each other
There is no attention or solution if we are acting and talking from a state of anger, sorrow...
And rising our voice is only to get excited! No way they must do what I say if I am not nice and smiling... And so the other way around.

This is the base for an healthy happy life, the opposite of what society teaches us:
We are scared to be happy because so people will not support us and love us as before.
Question:
WHAT KIND OF PEOPLE YOU WANT TO BE SURROUNDED BY?
..So SMILE MORE today , you will be surprise of how many more smiling faces you will attract in your tomorrow! And be happy .
More happiness and smiles will come along:)

Shine bright! And give your feed back please...

PROCRASTINATING? LEAVE IT FOR LATER!

I have realised how common is procrastinating in our times. Most of the people I talk to are procrastinating some how and many are doing it more than anything else really in their day. I used to procrastinate a lot, and I also used to get very frustrated while looking into it and not really understanding how could I , so determined and motivated, could still pass for later something I knew it was so very important to me. Does it sound familiar ?
Until one day I decided to turn my self around and play my cards better:
If so many people , even the greatest and most successful ones, do have procrastination for breakfast lunch snacks and dinner at least, what's the point on fighting it? Let's use it healthy!

So I have started procrastinating what didn't serve my porpouse ...
Eating unhealthy food: let's leave that for later...
Watching tv: I do it tomorrow
Getting upset: agenda is full for today
Smoking drinking etc.. : Uff... Can't be asked today, I leave it till next week... And so on ...
Soon I became an HEALTHY PROCRASTINATOR:) and it gives me so much more time to do what I really am passionate and drived to do and so much more energy to do what I must do to speed up my way to the outcomes:)

So tomorrow when you wake up, every time you are about to do something to "distract" your self that is not healthy or helpful long term for the realisation of the best you, do what you already know how to do : pass it for later and leave some space for what really matters.

Shine bright and pay it forward:)

LOVE YOUR FAMILY,CHOSE YOUR PEER!

It has been proven! We Become like who we spend more time with.
So pick wisely!

Yesterday I was telling a friend how I used to believe that love was the same as proximity and sharing a physical amount of time together .
Which is true of course.
Yet not for all kind of relationships and love.

If we know what we want, who we are and who we want to become once we will be 'grown up', we are doing our self and our beloved one a favor when we decide to 'space' our love up a little if there is no coherence between the two visions.
'We become who we spend more time with' it's a now frequently used expression to say that we always end up picking attitudes, habits, even believes and economical similitudes from the people whom we are more in physical contact with.
And so often if there is a deep gap between the 2 visions, is the one that stays behind in skills, values , perspective or simply standards the one that drains the other one down to it's own standard.
Most important of all: NOT ALL OF US REACH THEIR GOAL WITH THE SAME VEHICLE , as we don't all have the same goals:)

This doesn't mean you should hate, stop loving or being a part from them.
It only means that if you want to be able to still love and cherish that person in your life, you must space it up to less time- less proximity- more short -quality -focused time together .
In fact even though in the beginning it could look like a very challenging situation , acting from your love and respect for that relationship you will eventually put your message through and gain an healthy real loving and sustainable relationship.
So look around and make sure there are no conflicts between your mission in life and the environment around you.
Your peer is the family you choose to have.
Your peer must be your trampoline and the safety of the playground of your values and standards.
Your peer holds you to who you are and help you reach out more of your self.

We are all a big family:
LOVE YOUR FAMILY-CHOSE YOUR PEER
Leaving and learning,
Shine bright!

HOW DO I VISUALIZE?

"The key to visualization is to keep the picture moving in your mind, and your self moving in the picture. If you keep the picture moving like a movie, you can master visualization really quickly. If the picture is static it is a lot harder to hold the picture in your mind.

Keep your visualization busy with lots of movement, and your mind will become so captivated it will not be able to think of anything else."
-Daily teachings

I believe practice is the real n 1 "make it happen's" factor. To me.
You can be mistaken many times, practice will guide you to the next step.
It doesn't really matter how many people don't understand you or don't like you, focus only on practicing and improving in those things you are so passionate about... Then your masters will be there for you to grow and help you becoming a master your self to somebody else. STOP FOR 5 MINUTES AND START PRACTICE NOW! It will be the start of your new reality.
Shine bright!

CREATING YOUR BEST YOU

Often now we ear a lot about creatives minds and the low of the attraction.
Even though we haven't really mastered how to close the gap between intellectual understanding and actual manifestation of the understanding into a physical reality.
This is because of the great conflicts that society creates. We are pushed to material first and so we tend to define our selves and our reality based on what already exists in our 'touchable' life. We forget what deep inside we understand , and that is the fact that life doesn't only exists in the outer world, for the most limited part of your self is in what we call reality, and which is only one of the infinite reality we could choose from!
The greatest work of all is sculpting our visions, thoughts and inner conversations into the creation of our dreamed reality... This is what The greatest minds of history wanted us to know , and this is what we avoid focusing on as If it was too long and difficult to achieve.
Let me tell you my point of view:
There would be any other thing at all that could be important if you where to master the fastest way to the manifestation of your dreams?
There would be anything even near the absolute magic of seeing your biggest dreams becoming true as soon as you give them a chance?
Call me stupid... Yet for me Nothing pays the price of inner happiness, enthusiasm, unconditional love, gratitude and creativity. Nothing fulfills me more then knowing I am moving towards my highest and best self with every step I take because my focus is to shape and sculpt my being into what I am meant to be.
Go create my friend. Like if there was no space for failure and you where guarantee success.
Shine bright.